Hunger Pangs vs Instant Gratification


I’m beginning to think that my fat-loss is so slow, because I’m not feeling the hunger. And why not?

The most obvious answer to my slow fat-loss is that I’m eating and drinking too much. However, my calorie count is lower than recommended. My fat count is low. My total calorie to fat calorie ratio is well below what’s recommended. I’m moving around a lot – up and down, down and up, walking, climbing, stretching, dancing.

So what’s going on?

Because I eat, I think I’m hungry. When I go to eat again, I think I must be hungry. But am I?

Maybe I’m thinking too much. Maybe I’m thinking about the weight so much that I’m putting my brain into chaos. Steve’s doctor told him to stop recording all of his stats regarding the lowering of his blood pressure. There’s a point when it becomes obsessive and obstructive. Steve agreed, and now Steve’s telling me the same thing.

You know what’s good for you. All your life you’ve focused on good health and maintained that health. So you have a little weight. We’re old, sure we’ll slim down, but not by record-keeping.

I wonder why everybody tells you to keep records of everything you do to change your behavior?  It changes for the short-term, but long term I believe now that we need more physical recognition of ourselves, rather than viewing ourselves through the intellectual process.

If I don’t feel the hunger pangs, then I shouldn’t be hungry. During those five weeks I said I didn’t suffer or feel deprived. I ate and drank that which prevented hunger pangs. Even though intellectually I knew I should be feeling something to signal myself to get ready for a meal, I didn’t follow that rule of the body.

Preparing yourself for a meal isn’t the same as eating immediately upon thinking about it.

I believe that, for me at least, I have to feel the hunger if I’m going to lose the fat.

Instant gratification has become a norm in our society. Advertisements are in part responsible for making you think you’re hungry when you’re not – yet. Ever see some food on television and immediately want it, even though you weren’t hungry? It’s playing with the hunger receptors in your brain.

It’s impossible to remove yourself from the influence of advertisement – it’s everywhere, all the time.

Entertainment. Food and drink is the entertainment.

Because of that alone, never mind all the other factors, it’s going to be a challenge to not eat when you’re not hungry.

Wait for the hunger pangs. Hunger pangs don’t kill; you’re not dying.

Fifteen minutes. Can you wait an hour? Do people really eat more after they abstain? I don’t think, for me at least, that it averages out to be more. Filling my stomach past capacity hurts, and I’ll back off.

Still, even though I’m doing most things right, I still have that gut. Frankly, being out of the 60’s helps (160’s). I’m not that bad off when I weigh in the 150’s. I’m out of danger. When I get up into the 60’s I’m out-of-bounds and I feel it.

My new goal: In five weeks from Friday 10 August 2018, using the GREEN DIET, that wasn’t so green the first two weeks, I want to be out of the 50’s. A hundred and forty-something. It can be 149.5, but out of the 150’s.

I have three weeks from tomorrow to accomplish that. This time there will be no maybes.

I know myself. I’ll dance around something for a while, before doing it. I do the same thing when I prepare to paint a picture. I don’t even know I’m preparing, till one day I paint and I couldn’t have done it the way I did it without the dance preceding the event.

In hind sight I recognize that familiar dance. It’s always the same.

Well, it’s the same here too.

When I zero in, it’s over.

Bye-bye 50’s.



Anticipated Results


Nobody likes discipline, but everybody likes the result.

The Anticipated Result is eventually what motivates us to move beyond our limbo state of mind.

~ Sharon Lee Davies-Tight



Finish One Job Before Going Onto Another

NEW RULE> FOR ME. Finish one job before starting another. I’m tired of all the loose ends in all my days and nights, that never seem to end, whereby I feel some satisfaction for a job well done. There’s just too many of them. Everywhere. Even when I complete one job it seems insignificant compared to the mountain of stuff I’ve started, but haven’t completed.

I’ve got my foot in the door of so many things to do, that my feet hurt.

Too much multi-tasking becomes detrimental to all the tasks in the loop, creating chaos rather than order. Complete one job to your high standards of satisfaction, savor the victory, then move on to something else. Success breeds success, so the next job up will be anticipated with excitement rather than dread. Your focus increases, becomes actually pleasurable. In the long term, you will accomplish more with less stress and be better at all of it.



Variable Eating and Exercising Lead To Variable Weight Gain Or Loss


Exercise makes me gain weight – not lose weight.

It’s more difficult to lose weight when exercising along with a diet change, than not. It’s as if when losing weight the brain wants to take from all sectors of the body, not just the fat part. So, over-exercising and dieting in a certain way to burn, thus lose, only the fat, triggers a conservation response throughout the total organism. The brain resists your attempt to separate the fat from the muscle and all other tissues, since its job is keep all functions and systems integrated and operating in cooperation with all the other functions and systems.

The reasons one has more difficulty losing weight when they exercise along with a diet change vary according to who’s giving the reasons and through whose prism of experience I look. I’m beginning to believe that the reason doesn’t matter, because there’s always more than one reason. The constant search for why I gain weight so fast or don’t lose weight when I want to leads to frustration and hopelessness, which leads to more weight gain. I yoyo between 3-7 pounds from day to day or every other day.

If I ate the same foods and the same amounts every day at the same times, it would be easier to look at what I need to eliminate or add, but I don’t. I eat a variety of foods and amounts at lots of different times. I drink beverages the same way. And I do a variety of exercises, in different ways at different times, which leads to a variable weight gain and/or loss commensurate with that life style.

Chef or not, if I want to lose weight and keep it off, then I have to be more consistent in what and how much I consume and when I consume it. That’s what I’ve come up with after all this time. When I exercise, my brain tells my body to conserve calories for the work ahead. So I have to exercise at a more moderate and consistent pace so as not to alarm my brain unnecessarily.



Go With My Own Flow


I’m not doing a very good job at sticking to particular days I target to do stuff. I just do whatever I want to do when I feel like doing it.

Why try to box myself into a schedule that doesn’t fit my personality? Or my needs or my wants?

I’ve got to go with my own flow – even when I break the rules I make for myself that were well-intentioned, but didn’t fit.

I want to organize everything, but end up in chaos because of it.

New rule: Do what fits me, not some organizational method of achievement.

The achievement will come when I stop boxing myself in.

This isn’t for everyone. All I know is me.










New rule: Weigh myself fully clothed with shoes on after shower and breakfast.

At the doctor office I don’t get weighed naked right out of bed, and they don’t take my word on how much I really weighed in the morning – a mistake all medical professionals make.

Still, I refuse to fear the scales with clothes and shoes on. It is what it is. Fully clothed will be my new baseline and the weight from which I judge all future weights.

There was too much prep work to weigh myself. I’m groggy in the morning. Oh, I forgot to weigh myself. Now I have to remove all the clothes I just put on. Or take off my shoes, after I just tied them up. Oh, I already drank that coffee, or juice or whatever, when I think to weigh myself. Wonder how much it weighs?

I’m not going for the quarter or half pound difference any more. Those two-pound and three-pound weight gains and losses are too fickle for me.

I’m out of the 160’s. Then out of the 150’s. And on from there.

When I can feel the weight loss or gain I’ll believe the scale.





When I looked over the months of weights recorded, my best weigh-in day is usually (not always) Wednesday. Steve’s week-end (Monday and Tuesday) is over – that’s when I weigh the least. I eat less when he’s home. We do more together. I’m not working all day – alone with Lilly Belle – cooking, maintaining websites, writing, typing, researching, cleaning, planning – and for some reason it all makes me hungry, especially seeing food – pictures of my own recipes – makes me want to cook and eat.

The morning after my week-end with Steve I weigh myself, plus the morning before my week-end. My worst weigh-in day is the day before our week-end – our Friday morning. I’m hoping and figuring that now that I see a pattern, that the pattern will change. No, not change itself. I have to change the pattern. I need to eat less on my work days. I exercise more on my work days, though. When Steve is home, I walk more, which may have something to do with the eating less. I don’t know that part yet.

Most people eat more on their days off than on their work days. Not me. I’m not as distracted by food when Steve is home, though we both love to eat. We regard our days off as time to catch up by cutting back on some of the excesses during the week. The proof is in the scale and the amount I eat. I actually kept track of everything I ate and drank for two weeks. Keeping track made me eat more, since I figured as long as I wrote everything down I could eat it.

Nice trick. The ‘at least I’m being honest’ trick that we all use to justify just about anything. What for, I wonder? Being honest never produced a good result for me in anything. I’m beginning to wonder why I do it. I guess it makes my life easier in that I don’t have to keep track of lies, but the benefits are slim and none.

How am I doing? I’m out of the 60’s, which means I’m in the 50’s – the 150’s. So I’m doing okay.

My goal is to stay out of the 60’s forever. Focus on that, and maybe soon I’ll be out of the 50’s forever. All the while I’m establishing new little habits to eat more nutrient-dense foods in smaller portions. My portions aren’t that big to begin with though.

For me it’s primarily the frequency. Nutrient-dense foods are not an appetite suppressant for me.




That’s right. Keep sweating no matter your age nor gender.

Medicines people take create a brain environment that opens doors to Alzheimer and progressive brain impairment diseases.

Sweating clears the clutter of mixed signals in the brain created by those medicines.

If you don’t sweat, you’d better find a way to make that happen on a regular basis.

Many women don’t like to sweat. It’s manly not womanly. That’s a prejudice that’s historically linked to women doing women’s work and men doing men’s work, that held women back.

Sweat and love it. You have sweat glands for a reason – to rid the body of toxins as well as cool it down when the body gets too hot. Keep those glands working for you. Don’t shut them down.

Once a week I wear my sweat/sauna suit all day and evening – usually on Sunday. If it’s too cold in the apartment I turn the heat up. And I sweat. And I love it. Then I replenish with filtered water.

Sometimes before going to bed I’ll take two acetaminophen – 500 mg. each. They help me sleep through the pain I’m in, but they also have as a side effect sweating. I wake up in the middle of the night soaking wet every time – from head to feet. By morning I’m feeling refreshed, cleansed. I’m not recommending anybody else do that, but it works for me. Now and then, not every night.

So keep sweating to lose those toxins circulating through your system thus your brain.

Another benefit I discovered today is that if I wear it at the computer I experience less pain while sitting for long periods, since the suit acts as a compression device around the entire trunk holding me in like a brace. I’ll be wearing it more often now, not just to sweat but for support while I work.



Right now I’m not so much concerned about weight, as I am focused on establishing new habits that will eventually lead to the weight loss I desire.

Laying the ground work – the foundation – I am.

P.S. I’m not sure if this is a rule or a tip. Guess I’ll go for both.


No guessing, that’s a new rule.

I’m laying a foundation. That’s a tip for you and a rule for me.




‘Almost always’ works better for me, maybe for you too – maybe not for you.

Almost never.

There’s too much commitment with ‘always’. But with some things, under certain circumstances, always is best, or never is best. But not one extreme or the other in every single instance under every single condition. There’s no room for flexibility here.

So sometimes ‘never’ is best in select circumstances. The same goes for sometimes ‘always’.

Pick and choose what model works for you under each circumstance, instead of one way works always best in every circumstance. You and I know it doesn’t.

When making rules the ‘always’, always gets in the way. Always do it this way, that’s the rule. Sometimes the rule needs to be changed with new information. Change it without thinking you failed at something. You made an adjustment. Making an adjustment to the rule is a good thing to do, when the old rule isn’t working out like you thought it would.





When I make some, I’ll let ya know.

Until then, “that’s the way I tumble” will be my working rule, like a working title.

Chef Davies-Tight





You’re strong enough to make your own rules regarding your own goals.

The rules I make for myself can only serve as a motivating tool for you to make your own.

That old saying is true, ‘what works for you may not work for me and vice versa’.

Rules are meant to organize, simplify and motivate.

If you organize, simplify and motivate, then you have your rules.