Compassion doesn’t lead to action. It’s not even necessary for action.
Courage and duty lead to action.
Feeling sorry for someone or pitying them is a natural emotional response to seeing hardship in others, but not for everyone.
Why get wound up in someone else’s life dramas, by feeling what they feel? It serves no purpose except to placate the one in duress. And how does that help them, except to put them in an inferior position to the one feeling sorry for them.
The one screaming for compassion always regrets it, the minute those words, ‘Oh I feel so sorry for you’ leave the person’s mouth. Now what?
Some people use compassionate responses to avoid the inevitable commitment that goes along with lending a helping hand.
Other people perpetually feel sorry for somebody, anybody that happens a long with a slight limp, because they have a pebble in their shoe and now you’re all over it to help, or some group, no matter what the circumstance. Why put yourself through all that chaos that you create in your own mind? It’s highly stressful to take on the woes of somebody else. They’re accustomed to their woes, you’re not.
Sometimes people just need an ear to listen to them. It makes a world of difference and picks up their mood for the rest of the day. Be careful that your mood doesn’t plunge as their’s soars. You know the type who unloads on anybody who will listen so they can feel good and go their merry way.
Sometimes you help someone and they regret that you did. You know the saying, ‘no good deed goes unpunished’. If someone hadn’t done this or that, this other thing wouldn’t have happened.
Crying is a hormonal response to just about everything. Either too many hormones or not enough. Why do so many really fat people cry so much? Maybe they’re eating too many growth hormones running through the flesh and milk from the animal meat and dairy they consume.
People keep saying you are what you eat. No human should want to grow as big as a cow or a sow, but they do it and live with it, crying their way through their lives. So what is lacking in those people?
Courage. Oh, I’m tough, I got lots of courage. Well, courage doesn’t mean tough; it means doing something that takes a lot of effort. Maybe you’re courageous when it comes to others, but not yourself.
Courage takes discipline to act courageous.
Limit your food intake. ‘Oh, I do that all the time’. But obviously by the double-wide appearance of the body, not often enough to put them into a single-wide category.
I can’t, I can’t, I can’t do this that the other thing. This is the way my body works, what it needs. I ne-e-e-ed IT.
It takes courage to say no, when your body/brain says yes, especially when you use the word NEED.
Resistance is something all humans struggle with. When it’s your choice, you’ll most often choose that which gives you immediate pleasure or relief.
Delaying gratification then becomes what one needs to address in one’s own life. Stalling, putting it off, whatever it is, puts you in control and everybody likes to be in control – in the driver’s seat of their lives. And you should be.
Oh, you’re for sure in control when you overeat. You are the only one eating for you. If you’re hiding the amount, then you’re not in control. If you’re bragging about the amount, then you’re not in control. If you’re flaunting it, then you’re getting somebody else back for your overindulgence.
And you’re crying all the while you claim to be in charge of you and your destiny.
When you wake up to the reality that your good health and ease of movement (for those not challenged by afflictions) are your responsibility, and only yours, and that forever stuffing one’s face is a childish response to unalleviated stressors, then you will see how little control you actually do have when you were supposedly having all that fun, ballooning your body up to a size that it wasn’t designed by the creator to be.
How does that happen?
Confront the stressors, not the people. Confronting people doesn’t move you along on the continuum of evolution. You’re a star shining bright in the universe. You can’t assign parts of yourself to other people and stay a star. You keep what’s yours and allow everybody to shine as they see fit for themselves. It’s not your concern.
How do you wake up?
Duty. A sense of duty you have to yourself. Nobody on this planet is going to shrug you off for eating less. If they do, then you have a duty to ignore the shrug, not necessarily the person. Don’t make it into a fight.
Make no mistake, compassion is a good thing. It makes us more vulnerable to the needs of others. Remember to show yourself the same, without judgement.