A Stanford professor says eliminating 2 phrases from your vocabulary can make you more successful
“Your language shapes the way you approach your goals. …
1. Swap ‘but’ for ‘and’
You might be tempted to say, “I want to go to the movies, but I have work to do.”
Instead, Roth suggests saying, “I want to go to the movies, and I have work to do.”
He writes: “When you use the word but, you create a conflict (and sometimes a reason) for yourself that does not really exist.” In other words, it’s possible to go to the movies as well as do your work — you just need to find a solution.
Meanwhile, when you use the word and, “your brain gets to consider how it can deal with both parts of the sentence,” Roth writes. Maybe you’ll see a shorter movie; maybe you’ll delegate some of your work.
2. Swap ‘have to’ for ‘want to’
Roth recommends a simple exercise: The next few times you say “I have to” in your mind, change have to want.
“This exercise is very effective in getting people to realize that what they do in their lives — even the things they find unpleasant — are in fact what they have chosen,” he says…”